According to a survey conducted by Ifop, one in three men (32%, against 19% of women) has already engaged in “fishing”, a practice which consists of sending the same message to several women and then exchanging with those who answered it first, leaving the others aside without explanation.
“Trash dating”, literally “trash date”, or even “one night stand”, would be more and more in vogue on dating sites. The explanations of François Kraus, director of the “Gender, sexualities and sexual health” pole of Ifop, who conducted the investigation on the subject.
“Ghosting”, “fishing”, “mosting” … So many terms that go hand in hand with this “one night stand” culture, widely used on dating sites. In order to better understand these new practices, the Gender, Sexualities and Sexual Health Department of Ifop carried out a survey on what it more widely calls “trash dating” – in other words, disposable dates – particularly in vogue. on apps like Tinder, Happn or Grinder. François Kraus, director of the pole in charge of the investigation, enlightens us on the subject.
Lefigaro.fr/madame.– The study uses a shocking phrase: “Before, people masturbated, now they go on Tinder”. What do you mean by that ?
François Kraus.– With the explosion of dating applications like Tinder or Happn, users are discovering recreational sex. Today, these sites guarantee a certain anonymity since one can, for example, present oneself under a pseudo or even lie. This favors a trivialization of sexuality without a future: we register only for the purpose of finding a one-night stand. Rather than masturbating alone, we masturbate with the body of the other.
How have dating sites evolved a lot since their creation in the late 1990s?
There was first Netclub, in 1997. In the early 2000s, a large part of singles were on Meetic. Then there was Adopt a Guy, which empowered women. Current applications, such as Tinder, Happn or Grindr, are easier to access given their free and the little investment they require. The number of so-called serious members decreases accordingly.
Is the “loss of basic forms of respect and courtesy between men and women” observed on these dating sites also present in “real life”?
Indeed, given the number of verbal attacks, sexist remarks or repeated whistling to which women are victims, it is obvious that this is a larger problem. On the other hand, I believe that dating sites, by the possibility of maintaining a certain anonymity and being hidden behind a screen, allow users to be even more “trashy” than in “real” life.
What do these practices reflect about our current human and loving relationships?
We live in an increasingly individualistic society. It is therefore not surprising that this characteristic also applies to sexuality. Love codes have also changed. Today, as soon as one feels attraction for a person, it is only a question of modality before taking action.